“To love a human being means to accept him, to love him as he is. If you wait to love him till he has got rid of his faults, till he is different, you are only loving an idea. I can only love a person by allowing myself to be disturbed by him as he is. I must accept the pain of seeing him with hopefulness and expectancy that he can be different. To love him with the love of Christ means first of all to accept him as he is, and then try to lead him towards a goal he doesn’t see yet. [Florence Allshorn]” (Peter Ball. Anglican Spiritual Direction. Boston: Cowley Publications, 1998, p. 71.)
